Food, sleep and safety are our basic needs and satisfying these needs can be a source of immense pleasure, if we are present. Pleasure is part of the reward system in the brain and a part of our survival instinct. The need for pleasure is fundamental for the experience of happiness and even the unborn child touches its body to experience pleasure inside the woumb. It is a natural urge to seek physical contact and it is a necessity for children to be able to develop into healthy and empathetic adults. As a young adult, a new kind of pleasure is awakened in the body, the sexual pleasure.  Sexual pleasure is not only healing, it is also the source of life it self.

Sex in a relationship is the glue that keeps us together. If we have the habit of sharing pleasure together, the mere presence or thought of our partner will lead to a warm and pleasurable feeling inside. We will long for the next time we can touch and make love. 

Lovemaking is not only pleasurable, it is a way for us to understand eachother on a deeper level and to cultivate empathy and deeper understanding. 

When we are not sharing loving and intimate tocuh, we feel as something is missing and for many couples, lack of touch is a reason for conflict. The reasons for not sharing touch with our partner after the initial love phase is over are many, but the fundament comes from the imprints we got as children. If we weren’t given enough touch as kids, we tend to have a complicated and stressful relationship to sex when we are older.

We live in a world where the babies need for closeness and skin to skin contact is quenched with a rocking stroller and flashing gadgets. A perceived lack of time lets shining screens with babbling figures replace the presence of a mother and a father. This leaves an emptiness within the child, and we grow up with a need to fill this emptiness, consuming and achieving.

Many people live a life in constant search for appreciation and acceptance from the outside and sex becomes a skill to perform. We often use sex as a way to release tension or create a sense of belonging and sex is extremely important in a relationship. But if our sexual encounter takes place with a hidden agenda, a desire to achieve something, a large part of the pleasure disappears.

A large part of our interpersonal communication takes place through touch. Soft and nice touch communicates directly to the instinctive parts of your brain that EVERYTHING IS OK. Touch also strengthens the immune system.

Our skin is the second largest organ in our body. With its sensory receptors, the skin is part of our five senses and the main barrier between you and your surroundings. The skin has sensory organs that respond to pressure, touch, pain, cold and heat. The nerve endings that are sensitive for touch are plentiful around the clitoris, glans, vaginal opening, fingertips, lips and tongue.

Recently, researchers have shown more interest in the so-called CT fibers. This is a special nerve fiber that not only create pleasure when exposed to sensual touch but that also seem to transfer emotions between the person who gives touch and the person who receives touch. The recipient of a caress can thus feel the intention that the giver of the touch has with his touch.

Not only sensual touch can be perceived as pleasurable. Pain can also be transformed into pleasure in the body and give rise to a number of positive effects. If the pain comes with a loving intention, or in connection with a positive activity such as sports or childbirth it can easily be transformed to pleasure.

When touched, a variety of hormones and neuropeptides are secreted to varying degrees depending on what kind of touch it is and with what intensity the touch is given.

Dopamine motivates you and it is among other activites, secreted during sex. Endorphins are the body's own painkiller and it is secreted during sexual activity, but also in connection with powerful and painful touch. When the endorphins flow in the body, all experience of pain is dampened. Both chronic physical pain and emotional pain. The hormone oxytocin is secreted to varying degrees during everything from caresses to sexual touch, and especially during breast massage or orgasm. Oxytocin makes you feel safe, relaxed and as if you belong with people around you. The substance serotonin is released when you allow yourself to enjoy and it creates an experience of satisfaction and calm.

That touch is good for the soul, most of us are aware of. Touch reduces stress, increases well-being and strengthens the immune system. Sexual contact is extra effective and healing, especially if it is performed in a relaxed and without  goal. An orgasm can produce enormous amounts of oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins and the deeper and longer the orgasm, the greater the effect. As a lover, you have an important function in your partner's life - you can be the one who gives pleasure, joy and health to your partner and if you share pleasure together, you create a happy life.

This course is aimed at you who want to increase the pleasure together. In the course "More Pleasure For Couples" you get tools from coaching, tantra, NLP, Taoism and a bit of BDSM to find your love language and new ways to love. The course is well suited for people newly in love and couples who want to lay the foundation for a long and stable relationship. The course is suitable for those of you who have just had children and who need to get close to each other without the need for penetration. If you have different libido, the course is excellent for giving you new unpretentious ways of touching each other and if you are about to break up, the course is also excellent for bringing love to life again.

In tantra, we work to "manipulate" hormones and neurotransmitters so that you get exactly the "cocktail" you need right now. With the help of tantra techniques, you can create exactly the condition you need to get what you want out of life right now.

According to statistical surveys in Sweden, only 11% of Swedes have sex more than once a week, 20% have sex once a week, 11% once a month and 12% every other month. As many as 10% of Swedes never have sex. It's not the quantity of sex that makes you happy, it's the quality. But if you have been together for a long time, you may need to plan regular dates with each other - twice a week is a good interval.